**I am prefacing this blog post because I realize that many of you don’t know me, don’t know my heart or that I come to each blog post with a helping and loving heart. I’ve seen so many comments, posts, and real-life where someone is being torn down, and it’s unnecessary. Much love, Daniele**
“Do you have an opinion? A mind of your own? I thought you were special.” Special by Garbage
I heard this old 90’s song today and it stopped me in my tracks. I felt as though it speaks to how we are allowed to treat our friends, family, and strangers in our current society.
We are in a culture right now that many folks feel as if they can’t have an opinion because they are afraid of how others will react. On the opposite wall, we have those who feel compelled to speak their minds. And maybe on another wall people who feel they need to change others’ minds aggressively.
We are in a culture where if you disagree with someone, it’s ok to throw insults at them. When it comes down to it, do you think you are swaying them, changing their minds or even informing them? Do you feel better about yourself if you insult someone, or call them uneducated? Do you feel superior? What are you truly accomplishing?
When we fail to communicate in a positive manner and hurl insults we are only creating hate. Isn’t there enough nastiness in this world? Why create more? I don’t believe that hate is helping us but instead breaking society down even more.
Take a step back. Take a hard look to see what role you are playing. Are you helping or hurting? Are you respectful of other’s feelings, beliefs, or points of view?
You may believe your words are helping someone, and they take it negativity. We can unintentionally come across as negative when we don’t mean to. Myself included in that. I’ve found that how others react doesn’t match what I expected. Watch for reactions. Are you constantly debating, arguing, being met with silence, or someone not responding to exactly what you said? Maybe even losing friends? You may be pushing too hard. Listen. Ask questions. Learn from what others say. Just because it is on social media doesn’t mean you have to engage. It’s ok to scroll on past something you disagree with.
Our energy determines what we are going to do and say on social media. I challenge you to take a step back and check in on your body. Take a deep breath in and ask your body on a scale of 1 to 10 ‘how are you feeling today?’ Listen to the response, it will happen quickly. Use your 5 senses, by testing each sense you are grounding yourself. Ask yourself what can I do to get my body to a 10? Then do whatever it is you hear. I often try to take a deep breath and possibly smell an essential oil before I respond to negativity on social media.
I understand that I don’t know it all, nor do I speak in a way that is always perceived well. I understand that others comprehend the universe better than I do. That I am a work in progress and asking for help is good. As an empath, all the negativity swirling around me brings me down, infiltrates my cells and I find myself stuck in it. It can be cleared it just takes time. I believe we can stand our ground in our beliefs yet not pummel everyone who dares to disagree with us. I beg you to think through what you are saying before you tear someone else down. How would you react/feel if someone said it to you, your child, your mother or father?
Holistic Mystic D 